Dear Ruth E Mudge
Thanks for contacting Top China Travel!
For the China tour, we can arrange a private tour for you and your family. So no matter how many family member join you and we can arrange the tour for you.
Yes, we can also arrange the flight to Lhasa if you want. We will find the best flight route for your reference.
For the China visa, you can apply it 1-2 month before your tour. And regarding to the Tibet permit, it will need to be issued 20 days before your tour begin.
We are working on your tour program right now and will come back to asap.
Best regards
David